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Help Me To Do The Grammar CheckQuestion Description Genogram Paper  The value of genogram depends on thesocial role of genealogy. Genealogy is a historical record of a family, and itcontains a very rich content. Through genealogy, people can compare the trueunderstanding of the historical outlook, a spirit of the times. For society,understanding the people’s thoughts and behaviors at the historical backgroundcan benefit in Ethnology, demography research. For me, making a genogram aboutmy family is a great way for me to analysis the relationship in my internalfamily. And genogram helps me to understand distinctly the process of howgender role, power dynamics, divorce and family value impact my self-identifyeven my future life. Gender Role The gender roles is an important secession I studied in this course.And gender roles also have an impact on my family; however, the gender rolesare changing by the time. Strong, DeVault and Cohen said, “gender role is a role that a person is expected to perform as aresult of being male or female in a particular culture” (Strong, DeVault &Cohen, 2011, P. 133). From the definition, I think the culture is the cause ofthe formation of gender role. And the expectations are the way gender roleperformance.  Before comprehensively talk about where it come from, why genderrole takes shape and how it shift through time, I want to enumerate the variousexpectations in three generations for my family. In the first generation, womenare expected to be frugal, good at needlework. The culture expects that womenhave gentles and compliant characteristic. For my mother, the expectation allmost stay in same. The main expectation on my mother is women should contributeand support the family members. And then, the gender role expectations of meare totally different with the idea to be compliant, my mother expects me to bean independent woman and fight for my own happiness.  Firstly, people learn gender roles from three aspects which areculture influence, modeling others and channeling. My grandmother was bornabove the late 1937’s when the Anti-Japanese War became serious, so grandmotherhad no opportunity to get the education. The low education lever causes theexpectations of gender role are based on the profound influence on Confucianculture which believe women should be good at needlework. Grandmother can cutadult clothes into children’s clothes. When the children grow up, she hadwracked her mind to gave the old clothes stitching on the fabric. For thisreason, the cloth could be worn for three or four years. Due to the change ofeconomic, different with my grandmother, my mother did not need to skilled atneedlework. She was expected to be responsible for support family members. Themajor way that my mother learns about gender role is modeling. Sinceone-year-old, mom imitated grandmother to wipe the table before grandmothertough her to do the housework. Furthermore, she was modeling the school teacherto check my uncle’s homework. Sharing mother’s mission and helping youngerbrother are the behaviors women should have at that time. As time goes by, whenI was born, my family was rich enough to prove me a better life. I studiedgender role from channeling and biologically based. When I was three years old,mother gave me many cards which have Chinese character. After few weeks, motherbegan to teach me to read those characters. If I can read more characters perday, mother gave my candy as rewards. In the biologically based, I am a girlwho has soft emotion since the infancy age. Later, I never have a conflict withother children. I usually sit on the floor and read a children’s book. Second, the gender role had been changed in across generationsbecause of the shift of economy. In the time of my grandmother, the war causesa low postwar economy and unstable states it was hard to buy clothes in themarket. So grandmother was forced to make cloth by herself. Time goes by whenmy mother became older; clothes were common goods on the market. So mother doesnot need to skill on needlework, she had the more extended responsibility tosupport the family. And for me, my parents provide good economic background, sothey do not judge my behavior as a lady. Power DynamicsIn my genogram, I show the conflictual relationship between familymembers and the main cause of those conflict just related to the powerdynamics. I studied the definition of power dynamics in class. According to Strong,DeVault and Cohen, “power is the ability or potentialability to influence another person or group, to get people to do what you wantthem to do, whether they want to do or not” (Strong, DeVault & Cohen, 2011,P. 237). Based on the definition, I know that power have both negative andpositive influences.   Generally, femaleholds more power than men in my family, such as coercive power and referentpower. My grandmother is an aggressive woman who likes to use coercive power tocontrol people because she believes she capable. Coercive power performs asusing physical violence and threaten to make people fear which can limit thebehavior. For example, when my mother was a teenager, she saved money fromeating to buy the snack. But one day, grandmother discovered my mother’saction, she became angry. She not only throw the snack away but also brought mymother back to home. Grandmother even threatened her to swear never buy snackagain; otherwise she would cut down the pocket money. Although my mother wasforced to do what grandmother wants, using coercive power really hurts mother’sfeeling and the intimacy between them which are the negative influence. For me, I am very lucky that my mother usually uses referent powerto control my behaviors because I believe she is perfect, and I also want to beperfect. Since I was young, my mother found that it is hard for me to keep theroom clean. She did not blame on me; she just let me enter her room and askedme that I prefer her room or me. I said her room is better than mine. She askedme to pay attention to observing how she keep the room clean. After that time,I realized that mom is very organized whatever in housework or her job. Forthis reason, I began to model her behavior, and I tried to become an organizedwoman as her. As same as I respected my mom, my father also gives her highly trustand absolute power in making the family decision. Mother makes all the decisionin the family, whatever which kinds of furniture to choose or where the moneyspends. It sounds like mother and father have an unequal power in therelationship. However, my father gains benefits, too. My father really does notcare about how the family operates. So he is happy that mother make all thosekind of decisions that help he to focus on his job. But my father does not likemother make decisions about his company. Have to say, sometimes the decisionsfather makes to his company are not perfect. For this reason, mother thinks shehas the responsibility to correct father’s wrong decision. Unfortunately, mymother uses an emotional tone in the arguments. She usually begins theconversation in those words, “do not you know that your are totally wrong inthis decision.” that send a negative message. Although my father knows thatmother was right, he does not like his wife is better than him even inbusiness. In this situation, the unequal power affects father’s self-esteem. Ithink because of the excessive interference, father is not satisfied withmother’s power in his business. A few years ago, my father started to hideworking decisions which cause the decreasing of income. Because of decreasingof income, those years father had had to ask mother’s opinions. However, I canfeel that even if my father asks my mother, he still with a very depress moodbecause of his low voice and slow speaking rate. Although my father is a littlebit depressed, the power structure is hard to change in my family. Fortunately,my mother begins to change her verbal and nonverbal communication which helpfather to feel better in those years. Other NegativePattern: Divorce PatternAs a whole, I have a good family. However, my uncle’s two marriagebrings a huge negative impact on my life. The way my uncle choose his partnershas many mistakes in homogamy.In my uncle’s first marriage, he chooses a woman who is not in hissocial class especially on their education level. Education, in my mind, doesnot only mean school education but also how the value and believes changingthrough time. In the beginning, my uncle and my aunt have same school educationlevel because they both just graduated from high school. However, my uncle metmany friends who graduated from good university. Being friends with thosepeople cause my uncle develop fast and became wisdom. For this reason, thedifference between him and my aunt became bigger and bigger because my auntdoes not want to try to match his value. The implication is that they even didnot speak with each other anymore. The failure of first marriage cause my uncle has extramarital sexwith a young women who was 20 years old at that year. I think the reason thatmy uncle choose this women because of physical stimulus. At the same time, myuncle loves to waste money to show his successful. So he has same value andinterests with this woman. Also, because the only thing the women wants ismoney, so she can play every role that my uncle wants. Because their stimulus,values and roles are matching, they have a very long and stable relationship,and even raise two children together. The reason for extramarital sex exist is that the normal in China isabnormal because the fast growth of economic. It became an acceptable actionthat young women who betrayed her youth and body in order to economic benefits.My uncle’s behavior torture my heart and makes me could not trust marriage evenman anymore. I hate my culture and cause me do not want to come bake to China.  Replication ofCharacteristics: ValueThe last point I want to make is the divide of value. When my motherand my uncle were young, they had very similar value. They both believed thatpeople need to be sympathetic, unpretentious and steadfast. However, with thefanatical stander for my family, uncle becomes a person who believes invenality. So the way my mother and my uncle raise children have a bigdifference. My mother teaches me the right use of money. She said that money isa tool for me to achieve my ideal, and I need always to remember what kinds ofperson I want to be. Because of my mother, I am different with other Chinesestudents. I do not waste money, and I also do not use the money to show myvalue. My uncle’s daughter accepts hedonism. She does not have a dream, and shealso does not have a goal for her life. I do not have the right to criticizepeople’s value, but I feel pity that the intimacy between my mother and unclewas damaged because of different values.In conclusion, genogram helps my to analyze to the relation in myfamily from gender role, power dynamics, divorce pattern and value which impactthe life of my family member. In this four parts, there are both positive andnegative influences. Although some conflicts are hard to avoid and change,through this course, I studied some resolve to reduce the damage. And in myfuture life, I wish I could avoid the negative influence and build a betterfamily.  ReferenceStrong, B., DeVault, C & Cohen, T. F. (2011).The marriage and family experience: intimate relationships in a changingsociety (11th ed.). Location: Linda Schreiber-Ganster.